In this day of drugs and vaccines, therapy, machinery, politics and police we are made increasingly aware of our NEED to have someone fix our problems.
And I’m no different with God.
I go through these vast seasons of prayer wanting God to make me a better man, a better husband, father, human. And, to be sure, I need fixing.
Problem is, I can’t be fixed.
And to blow your mind like it did me, God doesn’t want you fixed.
Yeah, I thought that was the whole point, go to church, read your bible, pray the right prayer, sing the right song and all will be made holy and whole.
Those things have failed, all of the, in so many lives.
Here’s what I know, if I married my wife thinking I could fix her, use the bible, good verses and teaching, to make her be better, I simply push her further and further away. If she thinks she can manipulate, condemn, deny and berate me into being better, she will only succeed in ruining what could be so beautiful. Marriage was not designed for this.
Conversely, if I come to her with the hope that she’ll fix me, if she thinks that I will solve all her problems, we will both be vastly disappointed.
Marriage is about two very flawed and broken people learning to love each other despite and maybe even because of their issues.
Side note: I am not including abusive relationships. There is evil in the world and there are evil people. If we understood Satan and his purposes in our lives, we would see that abuse is his realm.
But God does not treat us this way, either with abuse or manipulation or condemnation or any of the other tactics we tend to see His love through. The “LAW” can never save us. He just came to be with us and make a way for us to always be with Him.
He designed us uniquely, placed us in our specific family and environment, knowing our future and everything about us. And He loves us, right there.
And if we never get better, He will love us anyway.
If we can see His word as guidance and truth from a loving Father, to keep us from hurting ourselves and others and not rules and regulations to bludgeon us into perfect behaviour, then we will know Him more, His heart more.
And that will bring more healing, more peace, more life than any drug, vaccine, therapy, machine, politician, or police can ever hope for.