The Defensive Line (Part 2)

My wife gets upset with me when I tell her I’ve looked at pornography.  She gets angry when I tell her she’s wrong.  She doesn’t support my decisions very often.

We argue, a lot.

Doesn’t that mean I should avoid her when I’m struggling with lust?  Doesn’t that mean I should just be quiet, avoid conflict?  Or, better yet,  blow up from time to time because I can’t take anymore?  Doesn’t that mean we are incompatible, that I should just make my own decisions and suffer the consequences for my actions alone?

In nature, when an organism avoids the process of growth, it dies.  When cells circumvent normal development we call them cancer.  When an individual chooses isolation, it is eaten by predators, or is already a predator itself.

This is going to amaze you.

The reason she gets upset at my looking at pornography is because I am supposed to stop looking at it.  It hurts her.  The reason she gets angry when I tell her she’s wrong is because she is strong, confident in her intellect and wisdom.  She believes in herself.  She doesn’t support my decisions because she needs to know I’ve thought it through.  The consequences of my actions will alter her existence too.

These are all processes in the growth of something healthy, something beautiful.

We are sinful, broken people in serious need of our Savior. We need His life, His love flowing through us.  We desperately need His touch in our lives, on our hearts.

And that touch comes through the people He has gifted to you.

Don’t push them away.

Embrace them!


2 thoughts on “The Defensive Line (Part 2)

  1. Amen to that. That’s what love is all about. Love is for the bad times just as much as it is for the good times. For better or worse. Let us not forget that love covers over a multitude of sins. That kind of loves grows us up and teaches us how to forgive. That is what Jesus was trying to teach Peter when he wanted to know how many times must he forgive his brother. Jesus could have easily just have said as many times as you want me to forgive you, and that would have surely made that point very clear and personal.

    That kind of love opens our eyes to truth. To the truth of what we really are as individuals, as well as a whole in the body of Christ. We are all broken although we are not broken in the same place or in the same way we are still broken nevertheless. So we are to have compassion and forbearance for one another. When we are able to see ourselves in the right perspective then God’s role in our lives and in every situation will fall into place as it should.

    It’s just that simple whenever we are not settle in the right position we knock God out of His. Whenever we truly love with Agape love, the love of Jesus we automatically fall into the right position. All of our lessons are rooted in Love I truly believe we know this mentally. However, I pray for the day when this is solidify in our hearts.

    Keeping you and yours in my prayers!

    “Not that I have already obtained it or have already become perfect, but I press on so that I may lay hold of that for which also I was laid hold of by Christ Jesus. Brethren, I do not regard myself as having laid hold of it yet; but one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. Let us therefore, as many as are perfect, have this attitude; and if in anything you have a different attitude, God will reveal that also to you; however, let us keep living by that same standard to which we have attained.”

    Philippians 3:12-14

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